What am I doing wrong?
I’ve tried online dating and my profile seems to have proved to be successful at attracting attention from females. I am having no problems conversing and getting a first date but this is where my problems begin.
Despite coming up with great locations for my first dates and ensuring that I am well groomed, I have been unable to secure a second date from the dozen or so women I have met. None of these women have given me a proper reason for not wanting to meet again, all of them giving the excuse that the chemistry is wrong or they’d rather just be friends.
My photo is recent and I think that the profile accurately describes me. However, something clearly changes the moment I walk through that door.
What am I doing wrong? Is it the choice of venue? What do women expect on a first date and what is the optimum strategy for getting a second date?
Matt, London
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I know that it may seem harsh but perhaps the chemistry IS wrong. Chemistry is something that’s extremely important when you meet a new partner and in the ruthless world of online dating, it’s a make or break decision.
You’ve already stated that you chose great locations but maybe you need to revert to a safe location like a cafe or pub because if you’re choosing places that are maybe too fancy or too quiet you could be creating an awkward atmosphere before you even start.
Also check your conversation;don’t brag and make sure you take the time to listen.
Try to make your potential mate feel that she is special, rather than just another in a long line of dates. But don’t show so much interest in the factual details of her life that you become predatory – don’t interview her.
Lastly, don’t let the first date drag on too long. End on a high note, leaving her wanting more.
