Rules for dating a friends ex
So it’s kind of like a girl code that “thou shall not date my friends ex”. Most women find it disrespectful, wrong and hurtful. But what if your friends ex is actually someone who you could see yourself with and dare we say it…your soul mate?
Well, here are a few simple rules to help you date your friends ex without losing your friend…
Respect your friends feelings. Your friend may feel awkward about seeing you with her ex, especially if they were a serious item. So respect their decisions if they chose not to go to a party or get together when she knows that you’re both going to be there.
But don’t make assumptions. Don’t assume that your friend doesn’t want to be invited to any event that her ex will be present. The last thing you want to do is leave her out and alienate her.
Don’t compare. NEVER and we mean NEVER ask your man if you are prettier/sexier/smarter etc than his ex (YOUR FRIEND REMEMBER). For a start you may not like the answer and secondly it’s weird. Comparing yourself to anyone is a bad idea so if you’re about to ask – stop.
Don’t gossip. Don’t ask questions or gossip about his ex. If you’re having a row with your friend then you may think your ex is the perfect person to vent to about her but he’s not. You’ll end up fuelling a fire and just making things awkward.
Don’t stop your friend and partner getting together. Don’t be paranoid about your friend and boyfriend chatting and having fun together because you think that they’ll reignite those long lost feelings. You need to act like a grown up and realise that you’re his present. If you’re feeling jealous over their relationship then you probably shouldn’t be together.
Don’t be nosy about their relationship. It’s tempting to want to get the gossip on what actually happened between your boyfriend and your friend but avoid that temptation like the plague. Their relationship is between them and you don’t need to know the details. All you need to know is that he didn’t treat her badly and that he’s a good guy.
Would you date a friends ex? Or are they strictly off limits?
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