10 reasons why you aren’t getting any dates…
If you’ve delved in to the wonderful world of internet dating but finding it impossible to land a date then we’ve got some great advice for you.
Here are 10 reasons why you aren’t getting any dates:
1. Your profile photo isn’t right…
It’s so crucial that your profile photograph makes a great impression. If your image is old, blurry, of you with the dog, you with a gang of mates or maybe it’s a picture of your cat – then you’re not going to make that first impression count. Upload a photo that shows you in the best possible light. It’s not about being a supermodel, it IS about showing how wonderful you are.
2. “I like to laugh”
There are thousands of members on each and every dating site so you’ve got to stand out. Putting things like “I like to laugh” (< because WHO DOESN’T) isn’t going to make you sound very exciting. Maybe put something specific that makes you laugh i.e. “I love to go to live comedy shows and my favourite comedians are…”.
3. You’re not making an effort
Sorry to say this but you can’t just put a profile up and expect love to come to you. You’ve got to be proactive.
4. You’re fussy.
There’s nothing wrong with having standards and knowing what you want but there is a thing as being too fussy. Don’t over analyse everything in an effort NOT to communicate with someone whose sent you a message or reject someone because they’re 5’11 instead of 6’0. Just meet for a drink, it’s just a drink, not a marriage proposal.
5. You’re asking too much.
You may want to keep unsuitable and dodgy characters away but don’t make your profile one long list of deal breakers. If a bloke sees a profile full of deal breakers he’ll just assume you’re looking for that illusive perfect man so won’t bother to message you.
6. Don’t be scared of actually meeting up.
You should only go on a date when you’re good and ready. But don’t let the online chat turn in to a long winded affair. If you can’t commit to a face to face meeting then you’re not going to be able to commit to a relationship. Get out from behind that screen and meet!
7. You don’t send any messages.
This falls under not making any effort. There are times when you have to be the first person to send a message. Break that ice and take matters in to your own hands.
8. You stick to your type.
Everyone has a certain type but there’s nothing wrong with stepping outside your box and giving someone whose not your type a go. Branch out – you never know who you may meet.
9. Don’t lose focus.
Dating sites are not like your ordinary social network. You’re not there to make friends or to update your status with everything single thought. You’re there for one reason and one reason only – to find true love.
10. You’re scaring him away.
The same rules apply to online dating as they do in real life. If you’re too clingy or you message them too much (especially if you send the “did you get my message” message) then they are going to back away and not look back. Don’t waste your time on someone whose not interested, you can’t be everyone’s cup of tea – just move on to the next.
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