My boyfriend still speaks to his ex – should I be worried?
I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 months and he’s really good mates with his ex. They talk all the time and he even sends her messages when we’re together. They broke up around 6 months ago and he says that he’s no longer interested in her but I feel jealous.
Should I be worried?
Lucy
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Dear Lucy,
It’s natural that you feel jealous. In most circumstances when they split up, couples tend to go their separate ways and avoid each other because of the way that the relationship ended. It’s rare that they are able to stay friends when they’ve recently broken up, but it’s not necessarily a bad thing.
You’ve obviously already brought this subject up with him if he’s told you that he’s over her but why don’t you ask him how he would feel if it was you who was friendly with your ex.
But it comes down to trust. If you trust him enough then his word should be enough to dispel your fears about him being unfaithful. She’s part of his past and they’ve got shared memories but that doesn’t mean that they’ll ever want to go back to being in a relationship.
I’d advise steering clear of asking him to cut her out of his life completely after all, if they’re friendly and he wanted to go back, then he probably could have by now anyway.
Just ask him to cut it back a little, especially when he’s with you or maybe get to know her yourself. After all, you may like her.
