Straight forward tips for sending that first message
The first message is always the most important. Not to put any pressure on you or anything but it’s kind of the thing that will set you apart from the rest and invite conversation – you need to get this right!
And let me just say…HEY! doesn’t cut it. Sorry. It needs to be better.
So here are some straight forward tips for sending that first message.
Get to the point. We are BOMBARDED with information, messages, emails etc every day. Seriously, no one has time to read waffle. So say hello then get to the point. For example if you see that your potential date likes Breaking Bad how about something like…
“Hey! Liked what I just read and saw you like Breaking Bad. Seriously, how do you think three of them get through a pizza that size? #Questions!” < If they’ve watched the show, they’ll get it and you’ve asked them a question so it’s more likely you’ll get a reply.
Leave the cheese in your fridge. Cheesy messages are just cringe worthy on so many levels. You may think you’re being cute and funny but it’s probably more likely that you’re being weird and just creating a block for yourself.
Appeal to your potential dates interests. So you like the same movies, the same tv shows, you’ve even travelled to the same countries. Great. You’ve found someone who likes the same stuff as you, acknowledge it then move along. You don’t want to spend your time gushing over someone for liking the same stuff, instead just get down to talking about it in a non fan girl/boy way.
Seriously, when it comes to first messages you need to be yourself, relax, have a laugh but keep that needy/creepy side under control.
